about me
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Hello! I'm Adeline (she/her)
I’m a highly sensitive person who has loved going inwards ever since I was a child.
“I’M INDEPENDENT” I protected myself by entering a bubble of books, nature, and serenity, unknowingly disconnecting from the world of my family and friends in the process. I felt blissfully unaware and content in my little bubble, believing that I was happy being the listening ear for friends, but that I myself didn’t need sustained love from others.
ANXIETY & HYPERVIGILANCE I was 24 when this illusion was shattered. After an unexpected encounter, it hit me like a brick that I did need connection, and that I’d been living a lie for over a decade. I was aghast and deeply shaken. But I knew what I had to do. I began opening up to receiving love from others… and found myself inundated with the noise of all the expectations and feelings of society. Everything I thought I knew about who I was no longer seemed real, and anxiety, burnout and compassion fatigue became my norm.
PERFECTIONISM Soon after, I began training as a counsellor. It was a fulfillment of a lifelong desire to do work that felt both satisfying and deeply meaningful – for the first time, something truly mattered to me. Despite just getting started, I wanted to be amazing at this work; nothing less felt acceptable. My perfectionism went through the roof, and my self-esteem hit an all-time low.
I never felt good enough, patient enough, or deserving enough.
I was constantly running, and constantly exhausted.
So many parts of my childhood bubble had sustained me for years – journalling, singing, wandering quietly outdoors. I had also started meditating, and then practising yoga, in my early twenties. But as everything seemed to reinforce my sense of not-enoughness, they grew increasingly distant from my life.
Around this time, I found EFT by accident. Very skeptical but curious, I attended a group tapping circle… then took up an extended training… and began seeing an EFT practitioner.
To my big surprise, tapping worked.
I felt my emotional intensity fall as I tapped. I felt aches and pains shift themselves to different parts of my body as I tapped, evidence of psychosomatic issues. With the support of EFT, I pinpointed specific events that had shaped my need to be independent, and my fear of showing up only to reveal my weaknesses to others, and found myself letting go of events that had distressed me for a long time.
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An ongoing process...
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I emerged from behind my lone wolf shield...
… And began living from the heart again.
The more I tapped on and released these past events, and spent time understanding myself, the less I feared judgement and rejection, and the stronger a sense of self-respect and self-acceptance grew.
Meeting groups of people became a more joyful experience, and I no longer felt overwhelmed by anxiety at the thought of how others might respond to me. The grounding and sense of resourcefulness is an anchor.
I am still a perfectionist, but it comes with less fear and compulsion these days. The work continues.
I now work with clients around the world, guiding them through their own journey towards fuller and more satisfying lives.